2. (d) Figuring Out Your Fiancé?
“Isn’t this his wedding, too?” you’re asking. Well, yes it is. And it definitely is important to make sure that the wedding you envision isn’t totally out of line with what your beloved has in mind.
The only difficult part of that important task is that, in many cases, your beloved has no idea what he has in mind. I’m sure it comes as no surprise to you that men do not tend to fall into the Pre-planning wedding crowd that has been imagining this event a hundred different ways since they were five years old.
Men more closely resemble those women for whom it takes some time to realize that just saying you’re willing to get married doesn’t actually get the job done. The difference between men and these non-planner women is that when men realize that somebody needs to get on the ball and make this wedding thing happen, men also know that that someone does not have to be them.
Many women find dealing with their beloved’s lack of meaningful input to be one of the most frustrating parts of planning a wedding. If you are one of those rare women whose fiancé loves nothing more than to page endlessly through catalogues of invitation designs and discuss with you the pros and cons of each, then the following advice is not for you.
For the rest of us:
- Recognize that when you ask your beloved where he wants to have the ceremony, and he says, "You’re the one who cares. Why do I have to decide?" he’s not totally off the mark. In all probability, you do have some set-in-stone rules about where you’d be willing to be wed.
Be sensitive to each other’s wishes and styles. The wedding should be an expression of the coming together of two individuals and a blend of who they are and where they come from. This came into play in such areas as where we got married, the vows, who stood up with us, and the food we served. — Anne
The last thing you want is to ask your beloved where he wants to have the ceremony only to have him enthusiastically exclaim, "How about at the Star Trek: The Experience exhibit in the Las Vegas Hilton?!" Discover the rest of the story ...
