1. (d) Hand Over the Reigns … At the END
Even if you hire a wedding planner, don’t hand over the reigns to your wedding too early on. Not if you want to achieve the wedding of your dreams.
But as you’re getting down to the week or so before your wedding, the balance between the importance of planning your dream wedding and the importance of living your dream wedding will shift. It’s time to stop with the planning and start with the living.
However the planning won’t actually be finished a week or two before your wedding. Some of the most important things you have to do to make sure you get the wedding of YOUR dreams, to stop others from taking it over, have to be done right before your wedding. In fact, many of them have to be done the day before or the day of your wedding. But, repeat after me:
"I don’t want to be planning my wedding on my wedding day."
You want to be living your wedding on the day of your wedding. And if you can manage to start living your wedding several days or even a couple weeks before your wedding, even better.
The keys to being able to hand over the reigns in the right way and at the right time, will be described in my posts about Double-checking/Delegating and The Last Word (I’ll put live links here once those posts are written).
The keys come down to (a) being prepared to turn the reigns over to someone else and still get what you want and (b) handing the reigns over to the right person.
One excellent reason to hire a wedding planner is if you don’t know the right kind of people in your personal life to do (b).
You probably didn’t pick your friends (and you don’t even get to pick your family) based on how well they’ll take charge and follow your wedding-creation plans. (If that is how you chose your friends, well . . . that’s going to work out really well for the advice on this site, but immediately following your wedding, I’m going to have to recommend some counseling. 
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If you ended up with a lot of unreliable or free-spirited or wimpy friends and family, you’ll need to hire someone to hand the reigns off to. It’s critical to be able to hand off the reigns and live your wedding day!
Throughout all of this, the most important thing to keep in mind is you. Well, you and your beloved. Figure out what you want and then make it happen. This site takes you through both parts of that process. First the process of figuring out what you want (within the constraints of reality, a budget, the family you were cursed blessed with, how much time you’ve got until the wedding, etc.).
First step (and next topic on this site), figure out what you want. Have fun!
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