1. (c) Give Yourself Time
To have the most flexibility, you should start your wedding planning anywhere from a year to eighteen months before you’d like to actually get married.
Wait! Don’t panic! People have successfully pulled together weddings that were just perfect for them with a few weeks or even a few days of planning.
The 12-18 month suggestion is just that, a suggestion.
It is, however, based on the wise idea that spreading the tasks out over time will cause you less stress. A longer timetable also allows for those chunks of time when you’re lying on your couch thinking, "Wedding? I could not care less if I had a wedding!" and, believe me, those times will arise, times when you’ll just want to put all the planning aside and think about something (anything) else for a while!
But, for those who find the last minute approach preferable (or necessary), timetables can be completely ignored.
I was very proud of myself for pulling the whole thing off in less than 15 minutes for under $100. – Lisa
If you’re planning your wedding under a tight timeline, controlling your own brain is one of the most important things you can do. Let me repeat: don’t panic. If you panic, you’ll not only make yourself miserable on the day of the panic, you’ll make yourself more likely to ruin your wedding.
Even if you’re working under a tight timeline, plan in rest periods. You’ll have to make them shorter than you might have liked them to be if you had more time, but you still need them.
You need to take a couple days (or at least a few hours) here or there where you don’t work on your wedding. And I don’t mean the time you spend working on your job or cleaning your house or going to school or taking care of children or whatever. I mean you need time OFF. Spend this time just having fun with your beloved and remembering why you wanted to marry him in the first place. Or spend the time by yourself, resting and doing things you enjoy (other than wedding planning).
When you’re working on your wedding, work on it, concentrate and move forward. When you’re not working on it (and make sure there are times when you’re not working on it), put it from your mind and remember that your wedding is but one day in the wonderful life you have ahead. Don’t screw up the life just to have the wedding.
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