Online Wedding Planning Guide

The first thing to do when you plan your wedding is to figure out what it is about a wedding that matters to you. What’s really important?

If I thought there was only one right kind of wedding, if I believed that it’s wrong to have a lavish wedding or a Halloween-themed wedding or any other particular kind of wedding, then I’d write a site to help you listen to every word your wedding vendors (and other wedding "controllers") say.

If I believed that there was only one right kind of wedding, then I’d praise wedding vendors when they feel compelled to point out that YOU are not a wedding professional. THEY are wedding professionals. THEY plan weddings all the time. What can YOU possibly know about planning a wedding?

BUT I DON’T BELIEVE THAT. I created this site because I believe that you know something crucial, that no wedding vendor on Earth can know better than you.

You know YOUR dreams.

You know what YOU want, and whether it’s a very typical thing to want from a wedding or a very unusual thing to want doesn’t matter to me at all. What I care about is that you come to the end of your wedding and think, "I made my dreams a reality," not "I sure am glad I didn’t make my vendors do anything unusual!"

I don’t care if what you want is average. Average is fine with me. Not average is fine with me. I care that you want it. No matter what "it" is (as long it’s not harmful to yourself or others, of course).

By “Figure out what matters,” I don’t mean, “Forget about all those fanciful details that you should be mature enough to know aren’t important." Not at all. If what matters to you is having swan-shaped ice sculptures twice the size of the ones your sister-in-law had, more power to you. There’s nothing wrong with what’s important to you about your wedding. It’s just that you need to know what it is. Then you need to convey that to others.

The process to getting the wedding of your dreams is as follows:

1. Know what’s important to you in your wedding.
2. Make it easy for others to know/remember what’s important to you in your wedding.
3. Watch others like a hawk to ensure that they create what’s important to you in your wedding.

For our next topic, we’ll start with step 1, and your first exercise on the road to planning your dream wedding.

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